Q.When my pro-choice friends -- both men and women -- know I am pro-life and ask "what about the woman?" I ask, "What about the child?" We are having a frustrating circular conversation that goes nowhere. I know I am right, but they don't get it. What else can I say to convince them?
A. It is so easy to get caught up in unproductive arguments that pit women against children. We must see the humanity of every person who challenges us. Look at the question from the perspective of a person who embraces “choice.” See the pain of the woman who was abandoned by those she counted on the most and was driven to abortion. Understand the well-meaning friend who offers a quick fix, not realizing that pain cannot be diminished through abortion. Grasp the embarrassment of a parent who wants to protect a daughter from a grandchild who might “ruin her life.” Feel the fear of a young man who is suddenly faced with fatherhood, and realizes that he is totally unprepared. Recognize the betrayal behind questions from those under age 42 who have never known a day without legalized abortion. Then answer their question: Women deserve better than abortion! Serrin