For over a decade, I have been fielding hard questions. Even before
I joined Feminists for Life, people couldn't accept that I was both pro-woman
It is so easy to get caught up in unproductive arguments that pit women
against children. This week at the University of Delaware I was asked
how we can work with people who disagree with us about abortion. How can
We must see the humanity of every person who challenges us. Look at
the question from the perspective of a person who embraces “choice.” See
the pain of the woman who was abandoned by those she counted on the most
and was driven to abortion. Understand the well-meaning friend who offers
a quick fix, not realizing that pain cannot be diminished through abortion.
Grasp the embarrassment of a parent who wants to protect a daughter from
a grandchild who might “ruin her life.” Feel the fear of a young man who
is suddenly faced with fatherhood, and realizes that he is totally unprepared.
Recognize the betrayal behind questions from those under age 33 who have
never known a day without legalized abortion.
Acknowledge them while offering unwavering hope that we can work together
for better outcomes for women and children.
Let's begin Pro-Woman Answers to Pro-Choice Questions.™
The first question is “Can you really be a feminist and
women deserve better,
Serrin M. Foster
Feminists for Life
"Abortion is a reflection that we have not met the needs
of women. Women deserve better than abortion."
REFUSE TO CHOOSE® WOMEN DESERVE BETTER®
Pro-Woman Answers to Pro-Choice QuestionsTM
Can you really be a feminist and pro-life?
Yes. Feminists for Life of America continues the tradition of Susan
B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and other early American feminists
who opposed abortion. Our efforts are shaped by the core feminist values
of nondiscrimination, nonviolence and justice for all. Established in
1972, Feminists for Life is a nonsectarian, nonpartisan, grassroots organization
that seeks real solutions to the challenges women face.
Abortion is a reflection that we have failed women—and women have settled
"When a man steals to satisfy hunger, we may
safely conclude that there is something wrong in society—so when
a woman destroys the life of her unborn child, it is an evidence
that either by education or circumstances she has been greatly wronged."
—Mattie Brinkerhoff, The Revolution,
4(9):138-9 September 2, 1869
We insist on a world in which women have access to all nonviolent options.
Think about the consequences of such a world for the workplace, schools,
and society. We encourage woman-centered and parenting-friendly policies
including distance learning, which allows a new mom to be with her child
while continuing her education and saving on child-care costs; affordable
family housing near campus; campus and workplace child care; health care
plans for students and employees that include maternity coverage; telecommuting
and job sharing; a living wage; and child support when one parent is absent.
We have to approach this holistically.
Pro-life feminists demand that society support the unique life-giving
capacity of women, so that no woman feels driven to abortion. Women deserve
Check out what
we've done for women lately.
Next week's question: What about rape?